Staying Home and Being a Homemaker

A year ago I was blessed to be able to quit my job and stay home with my two girls. Tony works at an asphalt company mainly from April through November. During the off-season he does snow plowing for the company. At the time I quit, Tenley was just 5 months old. I had a very rough pregnancy with her and ended up missing lots of work. I don’t regret missing any of the days because it was better for her health and my own. I was also commuting 45 minutes to get to work and 45 minutes back. It was horrible, not including the late shifts I was given.

We ended up going over our finances and figured out that once he went back to work in April a month away, my paycheck was going to a babysitter and gas. Is that really how I wanted my kids growing up?! The babysitter taking care of them when my paycheck wasnt providing anything besides paying them.

The next day I put my two weeks in. Best decision ever!!

Some days I will admit are a huge struggle for me. It can get very hectic around here. You feel sometimes alone and that you’re missing a lot.

Even though some days are insane you really are gaining so much. It’s truly a blessing. Remember your children will grow in ways you never thought possible.

I am not the perfect homemaker. Some days have been lazy days, dishes piled up and laundry got out of hand. There were days I took advantage of being home. I will admit it, I am in no way perfect. My house is no where near spotless and my kids are not on the best schedule. When Tony was off it was a little slacking which I regret now trying to get things back into order.

Taken with my iphone- sorry grainy picture. You definitely get the point though!
Real Life

Real Life Mess

My house isnt always this messy I promise!

I want to strive to be a better homemaker and take care of the duties of the home. Tony works so hard to make sure I can stay home to raise our girls that I want to make sure he is satisfied with what I have done for the day. Dont get me wrong, I do want to do it mainly for me but its nice to have him smile and feel relaxed coming home to a clean home. Not every day is there dinner on the table or all toys picked up but I am getting better. Tony always tells me that he doesnt care how the house is but it is a more relaxed situation when he isn’t worrying about housework. Keeping on a schedule is hard for me. I am definitely a procrastinator but I am hoping to get a cleaning schedule down. I will do a separate post about it. Hoping it helps me with daily cleaning and keeping schedules.

I believe this was what I was called to do. Tony does a wonderful job of taking care of us and being the head of the household. I want to be a great teammate and happily do my job. Taking care of the house and children. I am so blessed in so many ways.

This job has been given to me do. Therefore, it is a gift. Therefore, it s a privilege. Therefore, it is an offering I may make to God. Therefore, it is to be done gladly, if it is done for Him. Here, not somewhere else, I may learn God’s way. In this job, not in some other, God looks for faithfullness.
-Elisabeth Elliot

Here is a link to print off the quote above:
http://time-warp-wife.blogspot.ca/2012/12/free-printable-elisabeth-elliot-quote.html

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Obsessed with Baby

When I was pregnant with Tenley I had joined a Facebook group for October due date mothers off the What to Expect Website. Very good website, I met a lot of great women and got really good information. This group was for all the pregnant mothers who were due in October 2011. What a great set up! After, we all started having our kids the ones who were still pregnant were being taken over by those who actually delivered. I decided to make a Moms group. Most of the women who were on the WTE October group moved to my group and others that were friends of mine. This group has been successful still now, and is growing everyday! We are bunch of wonderful women who have different input on how to raise our children. The group is mainly a support group for moms who want to brag, just vent, talk about anything, and meet new people. After 6 months it has 300 great women! While being in this group I have come to realize that I am obsessed with baby! Not even joking! My life has become babies/ toddlers/ playtime and nap time. I discuss baby all the time. I am pretty sure that those of my friends who have no children get quite annoyed with me always talking about babies. I do have adult time too (well sort of). I am not married, have two children, have bottle and breast-fed, had a c-section and a vbac. I am really open to learning new tricks of the trade and love hearing stories of other moms lives.

I have just recently become a stay at home mom and I would have to say it is one of the hardest jobs I have ever done! It’s a constant job, there is no breaks! Even in the bathroom, I don’t think when my child has been home with me that I have been able to pee alone more than a hand full of times! Amazing right?! Just the kind of job you want! I have to admit like two weeks before I decided to quit my job I had all these great projects I was going to accomplish!! The house was going to be spotless! I know I know you are all laughing at me when you read that!! Since, I never was a sahm I really didn’t know what to expect!! My days off of work were crazy but never expected everyday to be like that!! Well, sorry to say I was wrong! I really now know those moms who used to come into my work with her three kids and looked all frazzled I know I understand!! Mother to mother I know!

How has your life changed since being a sahm or sahd?!?!